My post-baby body journey

bucket list julyConfession time – I’m not happy with my post-baby body. I’m about 7kg off my pre-pregnancy weight and it’s getting to me. baby weight

I can make excuses – Due to some complications from the tough labour I’m still not allowed to exercise (generally, it’s fine to exercise from 6 weeks postpartum, but I’m 13 weeks and still don’t have the all clear). Due to my husband’s work, I’m doing a lot of this parenting on my own and so I don’t have a lot of spare time to cook healthy meals. The heat over summer has been ridiculous, and so I have not gone for long walks as much as I meant to (which is the only form of exercise I’m allowed to do).

I know many of you reading this will tell me to be kind to myself. That in the grand scheme of things it’s still not that long ago that Lola was born and I have plenty of time still to lose the baby weight. That 7kg isn’t that much to lose.

The problem is though that my current weight is getting to me mentally. I don’t feel healthy, which is more important than reaching a certain weight. It’s made worse by the fact that I know what healthy feels like and I know how to be healthy. I have a reasonable level of nutrition knowledge and when I get into a pattern, can happily go to the gym 5 days a week. Being healthy makes me happy and more confident. That’s what I miss.

I know there’s no easy solution. It will take time. I should (fingers crossed) get the all-clear to start exercising again after a check up tomorrow. Normally I find it easier to exercise rather than eat completely clean (I have a sweet tooth) so that should go some of the way to making me feel like my own self.

A while ago, my friend and fellow blogger Clementine wrote a great post on her blog The Whole Life about how to take small steps to improve every day. The basic concept is to create a list of 12 small changes to make in your life, and stick to it for 30 days. After that point, hopefully the changes will become permanent. As a time-poor new mum, I love this idea and have come up with 12 changes to make:

  1. Stop weighing myself constantly. I plan to take measurements instead and check them a maximum of once a week.
  2. Have a remedial massage at least once a month – carrying around an almost 6kg baby and breastfeeding is tiring for my back and shoulders!
  3. Drink more water – aim for a minimum of 2 litres a day. I’m great at drinking water when I’m at work and have a jug on my desk, but I’ve always been terrible at drinking water at home and when I’m out. It’s even more crucial to drink enough water when breastfeeding, so this definitely needs to be a priority.
  4. Go for a long walk (45 minutes +) at least 3 times a week.
  5. In addition to walking, I plan to do a minimum of two ‘proper’ workouts a week (assuming I get the all clear to work out).
  6. Get out of the house each day – on some days this would be my walk. On other days even a trip to the grocery store counts, as it’s mostly about getting fresh air and sunshine. Staying at home all day drives me a little stir crazy.
  7. Eat more vegetables – lately I often eat what’s quick, which means I don’t always take the time to chop and roast vegetables etc. This needs to change.
  8. Take all of my vitamins – I’ve been terrible at taking my vitamins, so need to make a concerted effort to do this, if only to make my doctor happy!
  9. Lola has three naps a day. I usually do chores during this time. I plan to change this so that for one of these three naps I do something just for me, whether that’s napping myself, writing a blog post or painting my nails.
  10. Ten minutes of stretching per day – as I mentioned above my shoulders and back in particular need a good stretch!
  11. Limit takeaway/dining out to three times a week – I know this is still too much (my old rule used to be once a week) but I need to ease myself back into things. As terrible as it is, ordering food to be delivered is easier than cooking after a long day, but it certainly doesn’t make me feel better.
  12. Banish negative self-talk – I’ve previously written a post about the ‘mean girl’ voice in your head but I’m not currently following my own advice. I know need to stop beating myself up so much.

The above goals seem quite ‘beginner’ in comparison to my days of quitting sugar and running 10km. But I’ve got to (re)start somewhere.

I’m not entirely sure why I’m sharing all of this with you to be honest. Mostly to be accountable I guess. I’m hoping that by sharing my goals I’ll be more likely to achieve them. My intention is to check in at the end of the 30 days and hopefully share my successes with you. Wish me luck!

Any tips to help me lose the baby weight? Let me know by commenting below.

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3 Comments

  1. They sound like great goals Mel! We’ve been eating out almost every day :( no time to cook – my little one’s naps are all over the place so I struggle knowing when I’ll have time to cook or do chores. Let me know how you go with those – cheering you on X.

    • Thanks Viv – re: naps – if you’re a schedule person I’d totally recommend reading The Contented Little Baby Book – it’s been a lifesaver for me! Of course, just take the bits that work for you – I don’t agree with everything in it (probably true of every parenting book). I’m planning on doing a review of this in the next few weeks.

      I’ll keep you updated with my progress on these goals! x

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