I have been facing a pleasant conundrum in recent weeks – for the first time ever I have got a fairly decent tax return (probably the result of not working for half the year!). There are many practical things I could put it towards – the mortgage, things for our daughter, our rainy day fund (which was seriously depleted by said maternity leave). But what I really want to do is take a family holiday to Fiji! For the three years prior to having a baby we travelled regularly, but obviously we’re not quite as free as we once were. But I love travel and have been hanging out for a holiday – it’s hard to go from two overseas trips a year to none! invest in the now
You might remember that a few short months ago my baby girl was a great sleeper and I was praising a certain book for getting her into a routine. Well I should have never been so quick to proclaim it, because once she hit 4 months old, everything fell apart. There’s an awful thing called the 4 month sleep regression that I had no idea about till it hit – in short, a baby’s sleep often gets worse for about a month at this time. Unfortunately in our case though, things never went back to normal. Previously we consistently had 1 hour naps in the morning and afternoon and a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day. I never realised how good that was until it turned into three 45 minute naps a day (and I mean, exactly 45 minutes!)
This may be how my fitness journey has been going lately… it’s cold out!
Way back in February, I wrote a post on how I felt about my body since the birth of my daughter. In that post I listed 12 things I was going to do to improve both my body and my mindset about it. I even did a follow up post in April sharing my progress and promising to check in monthly. Since then? Silence. Crickets. Sorry about that.
A little while ago, I received a free copy of Get Rich Slow by Sarah Riegelhuth (not in exchange for review on this blog, just as a result of completing a survey). As regular readers know, I’m passionate about the need to take control of your own finances, which is also the basic message of this book. Unlike a lot of personal finance books, it’s about putting strategies in place to gradually grow your wealth over the long-term, as opposed to advocating get rich quick schemes. Continue reading
Today I return to work after 8 months of maternity leave. I, of course, have mixed emotions. Some are positive – excitement at the opportunity to use my brain again and spend more time around adults. To be someone other than ‘mum’. But there have been tears (mine). There has been guilt and second-guessing.
I’ve preached more than once about learning to say no and not overcommitting yourself but, like many, I’m not always good at taking my own advice.
I’ve decided to change this by taking a bit of a break from blogging. I only have one month left until my daughter starts daycare and I want to enjoy that month free from any distractions. That means a number of things, including blogging, will just need to wait for a little while.
Mummy guilt – it’s huge isn’t it? I think it’s compounded if you’re a perfectionist, like I am.
I’ve always put a lot of pressure on myself – trying to be the best I can be across all aspects of my life: the best wife, friend, daughter, employee etc. Now I’m trying to be the best mother too, which I’m finding is a whole new level of perfectionism. When you literally have someone’s life depending on you, it’s easy to feel a lot of pressure.
Well it’s been huge month and now the year is a quarter over! My baby girl is 4 months old which means she’ll be one before I know it. I’m still a little in shock about how different my life is from a year ago.
Anyway the end of March means it’s time for another reverse bucket list. Wondering what that is?
Well, you probably know what a bucket list is right? A list of all those things you want to do ‘one day.’ Well a reverse bucket list is the opposite. It’s about keeping a list of all the great things you’ve already done. It’s like a reverse to do list. Appreciate the things you have done, rather than focusing on those you haven’t.
I’ve found it such a beneficial way to actually take stock and learn to love the little things.
The New Contented Little Baby Book was recommended to me by one of the mothers in my mothers group. Her baby was sleeping through the night and I asked her what her secret was. Turns out she’d be following the routines in this book since her son’s birth and the results were enough to make me read the book immediately!
As some of you know, getting your baby to sleep through the night is the holy grail for many new parents, myself included. Routines for babies however, are somewhat controversial. Some people are passionately against them and prefer to follow their baby’s queues for eating and sleeping. It’s probably pretty obvious though that I’m pro routine. I didn’t have any kind of routine for the first 8 weeks of my daughter’s life and it was starting to get to me. It was hard to plan anything, as I was never sure when she would nap during the day (or for how long) or what time I’d finally manage to get her to sleep at night.